From Reaction to Reflection
In my last blog, Say What You Mean, I talked about how often we struggle to communicate clearly—not because we don’t care or aren’t trying, but because we aren’t truly in touch with ourselves, especially when we’ve been emotionally activated by tension or stress. So the next question becomes: How do you get to know yourself in those moments? How do you build self-awareness in real time so you can respond more intentionally and connect more effectively with others?
Say What You Mean
You might believe you're being honest and direct with your partner, friend, or family member when you talk to them—and in many ways, you probably are. But even when our words are clear, there’s often a gap between what we say and what we actually mean.
When Listening Isn’t Enough
Here’s the truth: in most communication, being heard isn’t the ultimate goal. In fact, being heard alone isn’t enough. That’s why, even when your partner can repeat back exactly what you’ve said, it often doesn’t bring the relief you’re looking for. We need more.